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Godly Discipline Is Not Child Abuse

GODLY DISCIPLINE IS NOT CHILD ABUSE

 

“He who spares his rod hates his son, but he who loves him disciplines him promptly” (Proverbs 13:24).

 

Seemingly some members of the church are being more influenced by society than they are by the Word of God.  Society says that the use of the “rod” (spanking) is demoralizing, brutal and leaves scars.  The Word of God says, “The rod and reproof give wisdom” (Proverbs 29:15). 

 

In his class workbook, Co-Parenting with God, Wilson Adams provides the following chart:

 

                                Child Abuse                                                             Godly Discipline

                Unfair and unexpected                                                 Fair and expected

                Degrading and demoralizing                                        Upholds dignity

                Extremely harsh and brutal                                         Balanced and within limits

                Tortuous and leaves scars                                            Painful-but no scars

                Promoted by hatred                                                       Prompted by love

                Causes emotional damage                                           Strengthens self-esteem

 

Because some take corrective discipline to an extreme doesn’t mean that Christians should go to the other extreme.  In fact, failing to use the rod when the rod is necessary is a form of child abuse!  Again, “He who spares his rod hates his son, but he who loves him disciplines him promptly” (Proverbs 13:24).

 

Parents, who are you listening to: Society or God?

 

Mike Pittman